How can teachers connect with "at-promise" students?
1st Day of School- There I was, staring into the faces of 40 half-asleep teenagers. It was a scorching August day in Los Angeles and they were not in the mood to play human bingo or any other silly get-to-know-you games. It was my 1st year teaching high school at my own alma mater and I knew the kids in this neighborhood could see right through me. I took a deep breath and preceded to tell them my story. It went like this:
Good morning and welcome to English 3. My name is Ms. Garcia and I have been a Workman Lobo for over 20 years. Not only am I a teacher at this school, I'm also an alumni. Many, many, many years ago, I too roamed these hallways and sat in these seats. I remember being nervous and wondering if my teachers were going to be nice or mean. I remember walking almost an hour down Echelon Ave. and across the field each morning to get to class. Anyone know where Dubesor st. is at?
A few eyes look up. I keep going.
I also attended other schools in this district. Did anyone attend Grandview Middle School?
A few kids excitedly raise their hands and look around with pride.
Cool, I say. How about Baldwin Elementary?
A kid in the back yells out, "Heck yeah. Home of the Bulldogs!"
Yes! That's right! I exclaim.
Well, no worries if you didn't attend those schools. I have much love for our other district campuses. You see I have 6 kids.
At this, they all gasp in unison. I chuckle and let them quiet down.
Well, 3 of them are my stepsons and 3 of them a biological. They laugh.
My 3 stepsons went to Sierra Vista and later went to Wilson High School. My youngest stepson decided to come to Workman and was a student in my class. Can you imagine having your stepmom as your senior year English teacher?
They nod their heads in a vehement "No way!" "I would die" "I'd transfer out!"
At this point, they have started to relax. I want to show them that in this class, all students have a voice and that I understand where they are coming from. I continue with my story.
I am the oldest of 3. My parents came to this country many years ago from Mexico to give us a better life. My parents made homemade t-shirts in our garage and sold them at the local swap meet. Who has gone to the Vineland Swap Meet?
Hands shoot up as they look at each other and laugh.
Yeah! That's where I used to get all the best deals. No malls for me.
They laugh again in agreement.
Then, my voice gets lower and I look around slowly.
Well, when I was about 8 years old, my dad was diagnosed with a brain tumor. We no longer were able to run around the house laughing and screaming. As the oldest daughter, I helped my parents translating medical documents or helping at the swap meet. I witnessed my dad slowly deteriorate because of his brain cancer, and yet, he kept working up until the last day. By the end, he had lost his vision in one eye and had excruciating headaches. Then, one day, my dad called us all into the room- my two brothers and I stood by. He held me in his lap and told us he had to go away for a while. "Quiero que le hagan caso a su mama y que se porten bien". I started to sob. I knew he was saying his goodbyes. He was going in for a third surgery, but he knew the tumor was malignant. I held on tight but knew I had to let him go. At that moment, I made a promise to my dad that I would always take care of my family. He died the day after Father's Day. I was 10 years old. My brothers were 9 and 4. My mom didn't speak English, didn't know how to drive, and was now left alone with a mortgage, unsurmountable medical bills, and three kids. I knew the only way to help my family was to get a good education.
I look around the room. Some kids wipe away their tears. Some nod their heads knowing exactly the pain I described.
And, so, here I am. Years later, I have a degree from UC San Diego. I am the chair of the English department at my own alma mater, I serve as instructional consultant for a few universities, and I have been able to support my mother so that she no longer has to work.
They start to smile at me.
So why am I telling you this story? I ask them.
They sit quietly. Waiting.
Because I want you to know that if a little Mexican girl from La Puente, with parents who did not speak English, who came from a poverty-stricken home, and who sold t-shirts at the swap meet was able to make it, then so can you.
All I am asking you is why are you here? Who are you here for? Think about all the people that have helped you get where you are at. Don't just do it for yourself. Do it for those who are no longer here with you. I want you to tell your story because I know each one of you has a great story to tell.
At this point, depending on the time remaining, I have them write a short journal- Who motivates you to succeed? Why are you here? And how do you plan to succeed?
"Bye, Ms. G." "See you tomorrow Ms. G"
One kid lingers behind. "Thank you for sharing your story with us. I can relate." His eyes are glossy.
Well, I guess there's a reason you are in my class. See you tomorrow.
Why should teachers share their personal stories?
It is important that students see you, and I mean the real you. Kids, especially those from challenging home situations are skeptical of who to trust. In order to build rapport, teachers need to know their audience. “Studies on thousands of students show that learners who are better socially connected to their teachers and classmates are significantly more engaged and achieve better than their less well-connected peers,” notes Hunter Gehlbach, an associate professor of education. I'm not saying you should pour out your entire life story on day one...well, like I did. What I am saying is that you need to know and respect the community you are working with. You need to know the name of the streets, the local hangouts, and the things they are into. You need to truly care about who they are as humans not just names on a roster. As Beth Pandolpho (2018) states in her article "The Power of Sharing Your story with Students, "There’s a chance for teachers to bridge the divide between the adults who seem to have all the answers and the students who are still figuring things out. When my students feel like they know me, they’re more actively engaged, seek my help outside of class, and are more receptive to my suggestions and ideas." Because of the increase in mental health needs for students, there have been a slew of programs and strategies aimed to assuage this crisis. One such program is Capturing Kids' Hearts created by a psychotherapist Flip Flippen. His philosophy is "if you have a child's heart, you have his mind." This is especially true with our "at-promise" student population. After teaching for 22 years, I have discovered that it is the personal connections that make for successful classroom environments.
Dedicated to my hero- My Dad: